It’s a fact of life that we all get older. You can’t stop your parents from ageing, but you can make sure you support them in various ways. Understanding that your relationship with them may be slightly different now, and their circumstances may change, is vital. Being aware of what it means to have ageing parents is key. Read on for a few things to be aware of:
1. They May Feel Isolated
It’s easy for elderly parents to begin feeling isolated. They can lose touch with family members and friends who are also getting older and have their own things going on. While this doesn’t mean you need to spend all of your free time with them, it could mean that they need some support getting out there and making friends. Maybe you could take them to a coffee afternoon or another event in your area. Figure out what you can do to help them – and make sure they have a say in it.
2. You Shouldn’t Hold Things In
It could be time to get some things off your chest. It’s not a good idea to start a blazing row, but if you can calmly start a conversation to get out a few things that have been on your mind, it could be a good way to let go of resentment and get things out in the open. You may not always have the opportunity to tell your parents how they really made you feel, or ask them things you want to know the answers to. Practicing your communication skills beforehand could be a good idea, as you don’t want them to feel attacked. With the right line of questioning and calm conversation, they may be more inclined to have a conversation with you.
Working on your communication skills can also be beneficial, as mature parents can sometimes blurt out things that come as a surprise. If you want to help them to feel understood and potentially open up more conversations, knowing how to respond (even when you’re shocked) is key.
3. They May Need Help
Your parents may be fiercely independent and do everything they can to support themselves. It’s important that you don’t patronise them. They are still adults, and they have a lot of life experience. However, understanding when they need a little help and discussing this with them could be important. Talking about options such as live in care could be the way to go if you believe they need some extra support.
4. They Need Exercise
Many ageing parents lead sedentary lifestyles, but they need exercise, too. Could you take them to a gym class marketed at seniors, or go on walks with them? Try to get them out of the house from time to time.
5. You May Need To Be Patient
Your parents may need you to repeat things, and may be slower to react and process things. It can be a tough watch, but be patient and compassionate. They are doing their best.
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